Letters To Yourself

Are you good at apologizing? When was the last time you said, “I am sorry” to someone you hurt, either intentionally or not. As a psychotherapist, I have been witness to people treating themselves like dirt, putting everyone else first. Maybe it’s time you apologize to yourself.

Neglecting yourself, putting yourself down in your head, berating yourself, criticizing your body in the mirror, pushing you way beyond your limits- this is all self-abuse. Then you wonder why you are not happy. If someone else treated you like this you would not hang out with them!

We can’t escape ourselves but we can apologize and start over.

Writing an apology letter can be help the healing process.

When writing the letter, come from the heart and write it in the third person, as if you are speaking to yourself as another person. It might sound something like this: I’m sorry that I’ve sabotaged your success, that I’m constantly criticizing you and that I put you last.

 

Go through all the stuff that you do to yourself. Get it all out.

Then I want you to write a love letter to yourself. These are promises to yourself.

 

We live in our bodies. We are guaranteed to see ourselves every morning when we wake. Our body, mind and self can never leave us. Yet, why is it that we treat ourselves the worst. Wherever you go, there you are.

This exercise of writing apology letters and love letters, really allows you to step outside and see how you treat yourself.

So, write an apology letter to better understand how you treat yourself.

Then, write a love letter to make better promises to yourself.

Print the love letter and keep it as a commitment to yourself.